Daddy's Little Idol, Stage Fright and All

If you've ever spent time around Zoë, it probably hasn't taken you long to realize how much she loves to sing. Sometimes, it seems like all she ever does. Oh, sure, she sings in the shower. But she also sings in her room. And outside when she's playing. And in the car. And in front of the TV. She'd kill me for divulging this, but she even sings when she's sitting on the toilet. Believe me, if she ever wins American Idol, as she says she'd like to do, I'll be one of those parents they interview who reminisces about how much their kid loved to sing as a child.

Zoë even sings at school, apparently, or at least talks about doing so. When she was Star of the Week earlier this month and her classmates—who'd only known her a few weeks, since she'd just switched classes and joined theirs—wrote fictional stories about her, many wrote about her being on stage, including that big one on TV that draws 30 million viewers each week. They discussed the songs she'd sing (particularly those of Taylor Swift, her current idol). And they envisioned her winning. She's read the stories, bound into book form, over and over since bringing them home.

Problem is, much as my girl likes to work her pipes, she clams up when a big opportunity to do so comes along. She'll sing for an audience in a safe setting like our next door neighbor's living room, where she loves to give their karaoke machine a workout. But when asked to sing in a formal setting, Zoë's confidence disappears. And so, in four school plays over the past two years, Zoë has shied away from roles that would require her to sing as anything but part of a chorus. Oddly, she's readily accepted speaking parts. But faced with an opportunity to strut her musical stuff, she's cowered away, only too happy to avoid the spotlight.

I've explained to Zoë that if she wants to sing, she needs to get over her fear and take a chance. I've also reminded her that she's frequently complimented on her voice and technique. Even her teachers have encouraged her to try higher-profile roles. But it's all fallen on deaf ears. Frustration over wanting to sing but being too scared to do so has brought Zoë to tears a few times. But it's still not been enough to make her throw caution to the wind.

Kelly and I have, of course, been proud of Zoë's performances no matter what. Just last week, she took part in her new class' production entitled Child of the World. Though she joined the class weeks after the other students had begun memorizing lines and lyrics—and how to "sing" the songs in American Sign Language, which was part of the play—Zoë was one of the first students to learn the entire script. Yet, when a student with a featured role moved just days before the performance and the teachers scrambled to cover her part, Zoë wanted nothing to do with it. But no matter. Zoë, positioned in the middle of the ensemble and looking far too grown up in a wardrobe of her own choosing, did a great job, and we loved every minute of it. You can witness a bit of the magic for yourself in the video clip below.

Frankly, I suspect if Zoë had the talent to be an Idol contestant, we'd be seeing hints of brilliance by now. But there's no way I'm going to discourage her. Determination and desire can do wonders, and there's plenty of "singers" making comfortable livings on marginal talent. So you can bet I'm going to encourage Zoë, to sit through her performances, and to listen to my little song bird when she's in her own world, singing for herself and the shower head.

And if she finds a way out of her shell? Look out, world. With this kid's passion, I can only dream of what she might accomplish. Whether that meant Idol contestant or soloist in a school play, I'd be proud either way—and reminding everyone within earshot that I was her number one fan "way back when." And I'd mean every word of it, too.

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